In early January 2023, Kacey Musgraves celebrated her boyfriend Cole Schafer’s twenty ninth birthday on Instagram. The couple have been romantically linked since June 2021, a yr after her divorce from ex-husband Ruston Kelly. The couple quickly went Instagram official, with Schafer sharing an cute black-and-white Polaroid of Musgraves sitting in his lap.
“I’m trying like hell not to write down about her,” he wrote within the caption.
For her boyfriend’s birthday, Musgraves couldn’t narrow it all the way down to one photo and shared a carousel of their time together.
“So grateful for all of the laughs and adventures, deep talks, ego checks, clever advice, brow kisses, the books you recommend, your late night “oh I just whipped this up” and someway it’s extremely gourmet pasta (like, actually Michelin star) situations, the gorgeous way you observe the world and the words that follow. And mostly your unabashed, full-throttle vulnerability which is definitely the sexiest thing about you,” she wrote.
Here’s every thing we learn about this man of many talents, Cole Schafer.
Who’s Cole Schafer?
Schafer is originally from southern Indiana, and he now lives in Nashville identical to Musgraves. He does play the guitar, but he makes a living working as a copywriter and in addition writes poetry under the pen name January Black, publishing three books of his work: One Minute, Please?, After Her, and Guillotine.
How did Schafer and Musgraves meet?
Musgraves told the Recent York Times that that they had a classic meet cute in a crowded restaurant, vibing on each other from across the room. Schafer introduced himself and apparently didn’t recognize that he was talking to a musical super star.
“He didn’t know who I used to be, which I loved,” Musgraves said.
What has Schafer said about Musgraves?
Schafer’s book Guillotine apparently comprises some odes to Musgraves. In it, he references an image he shared of Musgraves during which she is holding a fan and looking out over her shoulder.
The poem reads:
“There’s a polaroid of her / on the dashboard of my ’89 Range Rover; / a polaroid where she’s bending the wind / with an oriental fan; / as she gazes over her left shoulder, / her eyes devouring something the camera cannot see.”
The poet can be an enormous supporter of Musgraves profession— now that he knows what she does. In February of 2022, he pics of Musgraves playing a sold-out show at Madison Square Garden.
“What impresses me most about her, is that she’s the identical human when she’s talking to my mother, my father, my grandfather, my brothers or my best friend Jack, as she is when she’s talking to an arena stuffed with 15,000 people (save for possibly the exploding fiery heart and a number of of the opposite lovely theatrics),” he wrote. “So, all that to say, Kace didn’t just sell out The Garden. She sold out The Garden in the identical way she’s built her entire profession: by being completely and unapologetically herself. And, you recognize, that is really something.”
How serious are Schafer and Musgraves?
In a March 2022 interview with Time, Musgraves Talked about why and Schafer were so quick to be open about their relationship.
“I do not actually need to maintain things private, because I’m pleased with the love that I actually have,” she explained. “I’m very comfortable. It’s natural to need to share that. And I don’t need to come back across like a robot — I feel people like me because I share who I’m.”
She added, “I feel really lucky to be with someone who’s so secure and is a champion of me reaching for each star possible. It’s a very beautiful thing for a person to give you the option to support a lady in that way and never take it personally.”
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The couple are clearly very in love, but they’ve another tangible commitments. In December 2021, Schafer and Musgraves hosted their inaugural Teddy Bear Ball in Nashville. The event was planned to lift money for the Monroe Carell Jr. Kid’s Hospital at Vanderbilt they usually worked with Construct-A-Bear to donate over 300 teddy bears to the hospital. They held their second annual gala in 2022.
Aimée Lutkin is the weekend editor at ELLE.com. Her writing has appeared in Jezebel, Glamour, Marie Claire and more. Her first book, The Lonely Hunter, shall be released by Dial Press in February 2022.
